Tuesday, August 16, 2016

How To Get Kids To Listen Effectively

By Carolyn Long


Children have a lot going on, both on an emotional level as well as with what they have to do with their life. It is often difficult for them to listen to their parents and teachers. It is not always as if they are being disobedient. Very often, things become chaotic in their lives. Parents need to know how to get kids to listen without becoming frustrated.

It is easy for a child to become distracted because of the fact that there is so much going on around them. Parents may become annoyed, but one has to realize that this is what happens with the average child. When a child is focusing on an activity, they often become immersed in what they are doing that they don't become distracted by the outside world.

When they are busy with something, such as an art project, they become completely engaged in it. They forget about what is going on within the home environment. They switch off to everything else, and parents don't always realize this. It is important for parents to connect with their child gently and make sure that they are listening before they actually start talking to them.

If you do raise your voice when they are focusing with something else, they may still not hear what you are saying. It is not helpful for them or for you. It will create a lot of chaos in the home not only for you, but also for the entire family. You may create a rift between you and the child. The child may also become fearful of you, and this is something that you obviously don't want.

Sometimes it is best to warn the child that they need to do something or go somewhere in a certain time. This will give them a warning. It is also important to include a term of endearment, which reduces any sense of threat and will increase the warmth that the parent has for their child. The parent should also be ready for a reaction.

You have to put yourself in your child's shoes. It is not always easy for them to simply stop doing something. They may be bored or they may be feeling impatient. Some parents will merely tell their kids off in a case like this. However, you need to come across in a compassionate nature. Use terms of endearment so they are able to understand.

One can become impatient at times when children don't listen to what you are saying. You must realize that this is part of the development process and you need to stay calm. Take a deep breath and remember that if you start to become upset and raise your voice, the situation is only going to become worse.

When you have something like autism, for example, you may not be able to hear anything from the outside world. You are so focused on what you are doing that your social skills take a back seat. Parents need to patient. They need to be able to sit with their child and communicate gently with them. It is also important not to repeat because it won't help.




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